If there is one thing I have learned in my life, it is the fact that success doesn’t just happen.

You don’t just wake up one morning and tell yourself you are going to be rich and suddenly you have thousands of dollars in your account at the bank for no apparent reason. Or, as a kid, you dream of playing in the Super Bowl so you wait until you turn drafting age and boom you are out there with Tom Brady and the Patriots winning it all.

No. Success is hard work, determination, self-confidence, the ability to accept humility with the goal to learn from it and it is made possible by allowing yourself to let others believe in you.

I watch the show “The Resident” every Monday night. Malcolm-Jamal Warner, or Raptor on the show, who plays an elite heart surgeon was recently rocked by sheer humility. He was ready to throw in the towel, his confidence was shattered and his ego burst. All because he thought he made a surgical error that cost someone their life during a routine surgery — a surgery many say he could do in his sleep.

All his training, all his expertise, all his pride for his job and his thought to be “miracle hands” — it was all ripped from him. He was humiliated. People stopped believing in him, he stopped believing in himself. But one person, one fellow surgeon, Mina, would not let Raptor quit. She believed in him more than he did in himself.

She pushed him to react differently to the devastation of the incident. She helped him successfully complete a triple-organ transplant and it just so happened to turn out that Raptor didn’t make a surgical error at all. Rather, the device he implanted was defective.

This has me asking: What defective devices are you struggling with in your life? What are the things holding you back, stopping you from success?

As a mother of three, I find myself wanting what is best for my children. I like to believe I am their Mina. I am, along with my husband, their support. We believe in them. But, I also realize there are certainly times we can play the role of the defected device too. This is where my humility comes in.

I believe self-confidence comes once you put the work into whatever skill you want to accomplish. Teaching hard work and determination, that can be hard to do, especially when practice is hard and the coach is upset the team didn’t play well, or your boss keeps hounding you to do your job better and you feel you are already giving your best effort.

Teaching self-confidence is hard as well. I have a confident, strong personality and our children, besides our youngest — good Lord willing — are more shy and sincere with their feelings.

I believe realizing exactly what success means is tough when everyone is faced with 10,000 other choices, peer pressure, the pure innocence of wanting to just do nothing on a Sunday afternoon but there is an open gym — it all has me questioning how do you support them to be successful.

The world we live in has given choice in circumstances; I believe there should be no choice at all.

I believe being able to abort a child at full term is absolutely wrong. Scrolling on the internet, flipping through the channels on the TV — all of it is put right out for anyone to see it. Society has allowed our children, my seventh-grade daughter, to read and be educated on people being allowed to make the choice to abort at full term. When the things they should be reading, should be educated on is building self-confidence, defining what success is in their eyes and figuring out who their support system is.

Believe me, success is achievable to each person individually and I am not judging what each individuals definition of it is because that is what makes America stand tall.

Rather, I continue to pray for our nation. I continue to support our family, our school, our community while instilling my beliefs on what I have learned and been taught is right and wrong.

Katie Anderson is a staff writer at Hawarden Independent/Ireton Examiner. She can be reached at kanderson@nwestiowa.com.